The Following are quotes taken from Osho's book on Intimacy: Trusting Oneself and the Other. This book had a profound influence on my view of romantic relationships in particular, and I do believe it allowed me to see myself and my partner with new eyes and better intention.
It's a fairly jam packed book, so I've separated the quotes by chapter and subtitle;
START WHERE YOU ARE
The search does not allow you to be here and now because the search always leads you somewhere else. The search is a projection, the search is a desire, an idea that somewhere else is needed - that it exists, but it exists somewhere else, not here where you are. It certainly exists but not in this moment of time - not now, but somewhere else. It exists then, there, never here now. It goes on nagging you, it goes on pulling you, pushing you. It goes on throwing you into more and more madness; it drives you crazy. And it is never fulfilled.
[W]hen things are not clear, you simply go on searching, pulled by some inner urge, pushed by some inner urgency. One thing you do know: you need to search. This is an inner need. But you don't know what you are seeking. And unless you know what you are seeking, how can you find it?
The first thing for the real seeker - for the seeker who has become alert, aware - is to define the search, to formulate a clear-cut concept of what it is, to bring it out of dreaming consciousness, to encounter it in deep alertness, to look at it directly; to face it. Immediately a transformation starts happening. If you start defining your search, you will start losing interest in the search. The more defined it becomes, the less it is there. Once it is clearly known what it is, suddenly it disappears. It exists only when you are not attentive.
People live their whole lives believing in what others say, dependent on others. That's why people are afraid of others' opinions. If they think they are bad, you become bad. If they condemn you, you start condemning yourself.
When you are moving towards self-knowledge, before it happens you will have to drop all ideas about the self. There will be a gap; there will be a kind of nothingness. You will become a non-entity. You will be utterly lost because all that you know is no longer relevant, and that which is relevant you don't know yet. Christian mystics call this "the dark night of the soul." It has to be passed, and once you have passed it, there is a dawn.The sun rises, and one comes to know oneself for the first time. The first ray of the sun, and all is fulfilled. The first songs of the birds in the morning, and all is attained.
Whatsoever is your real face, show it at whatever the cost.
Please remember: be truthful to yourself. You are not needed to reform anybody else in the world. If you can grow yourself, that is enough. Don't be a reformer, and don't try to teach others, and don't try to change others. if you change, that is enough of a message.
Remember: be true to your inner voice. It may lead you into danger; then go into danger, but remain true to your inner voice.
The guide exists within you, you carry the blueprint.
The true man has no ideals. He lives moment to moment; he always lives how he feels in the moment. He is utterly respectful towards his feelings, his emotions, his moods.
Once you are incapable of loving yourself, you will never be able to love anybody. This is an absolute truth, there are no exceptions to it. You can love others only if you are able to love yourself.
[S]elf-love can become narcissistic if it never moves beyond itself, it can become a kind of selfishness if it becomes confined to oneself. Otherwise, self-love is the beginning of all other loves. A person who loves himself sooner or later starts overflowing with love. A person who trusts himself cannot distrust anybody, even those who are going to deceive him.
A man who can trust will sooner or later know the logic of trust. And then one day he is bound to try to trust the unknown.
Without you this universe will lose some poetry, some beauty: A song will be missed, a note will be missed, there will be a gap-
Love is the goal, life is the journey.
THE NEED FOR PRIVACY
If your whole book is open, you will be just the day with no night, just the summer with no winter. Where will you rest, and where will you center yourself, and where will you take refuge? Where will you move when the world is too much? Where will you go to pray and mediate? No, half and half is perfect. Let half of your book be open - open to everybody, available to everybody - and let the other half of your book be so secret that only rare guests are allowed there.
Only rarely is somebody allowed to move within the temple. That is how it should be. If the crowd is coming in and out, then the temple is no longer a temple. It may be a waiting room at the airport, but it cannot be a temple. Only rarely, very rarely, do you allow somebody to enter your self. That is what love is.
[Once you have gone inside. Once you know yourself] [y]ou will relate, but you will not depend; you will love, but your love will not be need. You will love, but you will not possess; you will love, but you will not be jealous. And when love is without jealousy, without possessiveness, it can be divine.
RELATING, NOT RELATIONSHIP
When I am talking about love, I am talking about this love: a love that is not a relationship but a state of being.